Funerals

A Funeral service is traditionally considered considered to be a sombre and sober affair, where the death of a friend or family member is mourned. However, it can also be argued that the event is one at which we can celebrate the life of someone we held dear, and remember with fondness and respect, their character, values and virtues.

Our religion provides much comfort for those attending these services, as we believe that person will - assuming there was nothing to seriously argue against it - go to heaven. Although we cannot know what this means, we believe that our souls will live on. There is of course no evidence to support this - or any other belief associated with the passing of life - all we have to possibly provide a hint, are the common stories recounted by those who have experienced 'near death experiences'. These stories all recall passing along, as through a long dark tunnel, towards a distant bright light, and a wonderful feeling of peace, increasing, as the light draws nearer.

Hopefully, the following links to information on this page, may be of value to those needing to arrange a funeral.

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Advice on Funerals

The two people who will be able to provide the best advice on how to deal with arranging a funeral are; the priest who will be conducting the service and the funeral director. Choosing a good undertaker is an important part of a successful funeral.

Most UK undertakers belong to one of three trade associations:

All these organisations have professional codes of practice. The websites of the first two organisations naturally also provide useful information on the matter of orgainising a funeral. In the unlikely event of you needing to pursue a complaint against an undertaker further you can appeal to the Funeral Ombudsman whose details are given in the links section at the foot of this page.

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The practicalities of arranging a Funeral

The list below gives some of the decisions which need to be made at the time of a funeral. Many can be made before death but others may need to be chosen after the time of death.

You will want to give considerable thought to the music which is played at the funeral (whether on an organ or other instrument or from a CD).

You may want to choose some music to be played before, during or after the service, as well as the hymns or other music (if there is a choir perhaps).

You can talk with the priest who will lead the service, if you wish for any particular readings from the Bible. Additionally, it may be appropriate to have another piece of literature (poetry or prose) read to the service, or a close friend or family member may wish to say a few words themselves.

The type of prayers used at a funeral will help convey the sense in which the deceased person wished to be remembered. There is a big difference, for instance between a prayer said to remember a person killed tragically and a prayer for a person who knew death was coming soon and was prepared for it.

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Useful Links

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